Hi, I’m Daniel from the USA.
My cancer journey started nearly two years ago. I’ve also lost my grandfather to the disease.
When I got the news, it was a fearful and sad experience. I felt
- Helpless, nervous, overwhelmed, and worried
- Grief and powerlessness
I found blood when urinating and I had painful urination. That's when I knew something wasn't right. My diagnosis stated that I have stage 3 prostate cancer.
I made some changes to my lifestyle. I cut down on alcohol to two drinks per week. I also tried to eat healthier too, at least 3 to 5 days a week.
Initially, my doctor recommended that I undergo radical prostatectomy (removal of the entire prostate gland) and chemotherapy. However, I experienced unbearable side effects from the treatments so I had a change in my treatment plan.
This time round, I sought a second opinion because I wanted to know what other options I have. If possible, I wanted to change to a bigger cancer hospital.
Eventually, I went ahead with the
- surgery
- radiation therapy
- chemotherapy and
- pain medication.
I did some research to help me decide on this plan.
I was slightly anxious, discouraged and scared when the first treatment plan was made. After the change, I felt slightly better.
Side effects like fatigue, nausea, and peripheral neuropathy. Diet and meds help keep me going. Financially, it's a strain too. Additional rounds of chemo were not covered by the insurance policy. I had to fork out some cash.
Since treatment started, my diet's been cleaner. My time with the kids has increased and we even had a trip together.
I’m planning to visit my brother and his family in London now. If things get better, I wish to get back to work after the last round of radiation therapy ends. I was looking forward to a promotion before I found out I had cancer. I’m not sure if my health will let me be as involved in my career, but I'm excited to go back to work and that motivates me. Apart from that, I hope I can spend more time with my kids.
I’m pretty afraid that I won't get to achieve my dreams. I think I still want more time to do the things I want to do, but I'm not sure if cancer will stop me since my health isn't great. I confided in my therapist about this and she taught me some coping techniques. I’m trying to look for a cancer support group too since I don't have a lot of friends with cancer.
Compared to the days when I was just diagnosed, I feel rather neutral now.
I wouldn't say, “be more positive”, because there's nothing really positive about having cancer. It honestly just sucks. But we have to make do with what we're given. I would suggest looking for a second opinion if you can, so you'll know more treatment options. Don't hesitate to ask for help too.
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