The first symptom I had was difficulty urinating. This went on for a few weeks. I had a routine doctor's appointment. Honestly, I was more concerned about getting genetic testing done than with anything else. The doctor asked me right before I left if I had any other concerns. I told him I was having difficulty urinating and put a PSA order in for the blood work he was ordering. That was the beginning of this journey. That’s how I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer that has spread to my lymph nodes.

Initially, I was angry, fearful and surprised; at the time I didn't know what had caused it.

After doing my own research and with my doctor’s recommendation, I opted for chemotherapy, radiation therapy, hormone therapy and immunotherapy. More specifically, I was scheduled for 6 rounds of chemo over 4 months, 5 sessions of radiation therapy over less than a month, 1 round of immunotherapy and 27 months of hormone therapy. Today, I am still on medication. After deciding on my treatment plan, I recall feeling rather fearful; it was the not knowing if it was going to work. As for financing treatment, I am covered by insurance.

The worst side effect I experienced was going into the male version of menopause, which gave me constant hot flashes. I also struggled with fatigue and hair loss. I wish I had known before starting treatment how severe the fatigue aspect would be. However, I have not done anything to manage my side effects because I do not want to take more medication.

What worries me the most is being a burden to my loved ones, but I didn’t try to actively overcome this fear of mine.

Almost two and a half years later, it has not progressed, so I am somewhat surprised and optimistic.

To other people on their own cancer journey, I’d say be open to what is being said to you; don't just focus on the negative. Do as much research as you can on your own to educate yourself, especially with regard to medical terminology.